Marc found this article in the Times Online on December 27th:
Worth a read!
... to complete my last post, I wanted to point out that although there were no photos of it, we very much enjoyed celebrating Jesus' birth on Christmas morning at Christ Church, Bedford.
Also, we had a beautiful - if chilly! - walk on Boxing Day near Sandy, at the RSPB National HQ.
Simon celebrated his second birthday on Friday. If he was older, he might have been slightly confused by going to a mums-and-toddlers Christmas celebration and being given a present by Father Christmas on his birthday, but at this age he takes it all in his stride! And just seemed slightly perplexed by having about 50 people sing "Happy Birthday" to him while onstage dressed as a shepherd!
He took a while to get warmed up to unwrapping presents in the morning. I was beginning to wonder whether they'd all end up waiting until Christmas (!) but with some help and encouragement he eventually got on with it and loved his new toys.
On Saturday we had a small party for him. Just two other children were able to come, but since Simon still doesn't like crowds of other kids it was probably just the right size for him. He got on very well with the little girl who came, who is a few days older than him. He led her by the hand into the room where we had lunch, and pushed her around on his pushalong Thomas afterwards. They also had lots of cuddles - very cute!
I made a Thomas the Tank Engine birthday cake, which I was very proud of!
I saw the midwife on Monday and she decided to send me for a growth scan, as my bump hadn't really grown since the time before (2 weeks earlier). She got me an appointment for the next day (yesterday) which was good, though when we turned up at the hospital the midwife and consultant said I was very borderline and probably didn't really need a scan but they'd do one since I was there (they were very friendly and nice). I wasn't particularly surprised, as I was no bigger than this, and probably even smaller, during my first pregnancy.
The consultant asked how much Simon weighed at birth, and when I said 7lb 1oz he said, "A Marks and Spencer's medium, then!" ... and when we got the results back from the scan he said I'm carrying another M&S medium baby, and the amount of fluid is normal, so it really is just the way I carry babies that makes my bump look so modest!
And here I am at the end of November, on Marc's birthday, at about seven and a half months pregnant.
Life goes on, and we are feeling pretty settled in Bedford now. Marc hasn't found work yet, but did have an interview at a recruitment agency on Monday and they said they might be able to find him some administrative work, though it will be a day or two here and there rather than anything very longterm. I was glad he wasn't working last week though, as Simon and I came down with the dreaded "winter vomiting" bug, and it was wonderful for me to be able to sleep all day and leave Simon in Marc and Mum's capable hands!
This week we have gone back to our usual activities before extra things start happening next week for Simon's birthday and Christmas. Marc and I also had an antenatal "refresher course". I had seen that the NCT ran these, and thought it might be interesting to get some English antenatal training, having had the French version last time. We couldn't make the course that was running in the evenings, so we were offered a 1:1 (in reality 1:2!) course with an NCT
counsellor who came to visit us at home. She came for an hour on Tuesday morning and an hour on Thursday morning, and the good thing about it was that we were able to talk about what we needed to know and leave out bits that we were less interested in (breastfeeding, for example, which I already know a lot about!). We particularly appreciated her showing us some relaxation techniques, like different kinds of massage Marc can give me during labour - I'm looking forward to that bit!The hospital is open for tours again, but they aren't running any of their own until after Christmas. But our counsellor, Laura, is running one on Tuesday evening, and invited us to come along on that. So it looks as if we will get our visit after all, and led by someone we already know and like!
I would welcome prayer that my back would remain strong - it is blessedly well at the moment! - and also that as the baby's head engages this wouldn't cause any problems. Last time I had a trapped nerve in my thigh for the last week of pregnancy and I couldn't walk without a lot of pain, which made an active labour impossible. Thanks!
I had a phonecall today from the maternity ward at the hospital, telling me that our guided tour on Saturday has had to be cancelled. They aren't allowing any non-essential visits because of the winter vomiting virus in the rest of the hospital.
Very reassuring.
To think that I'm going to be giving birth in Europe because it's supposed to be safer!
As we got in from a walk yesterday, Simon said to Marc, "Je t'aime", and then to me, "I love you".
*melt*
It's been a while since I've given news specifically about Simon so get ready for some proud-parent stuff :o)
Simon seems to lost most of his baby looks over the last few months, and with more hair and less baby chubbiness he looks like a right little boy. Of course, it will probably take the arrival of the new baby to make us realise just how far from babyhood he now is!
He is active and engaging, and his report from nursery last year still describes him very well: "happy, loud, energetic". After being very uncuddly (too busy!) for the first year and a half of his life, he has started giving cuddles in the last few months ... but we still have to wait for him to come to us for them!
He loves: playgrounds, sticks, stones, puddles, tractors, Postman Pat ("papa Pat"!), Duplo, rice, porridge, cake (what a surprise!), grapes, Marmite (yes!) and looking at photos of his cousin Andrew (or anyone else, but Andrew is a special favourite!).
He doesn't like: most vegetables (sigh!), mittens, open doors, closed curtains, having his nappy changed in the morning, and having to get out of bed at any time of day!
His language is coming on very well - both of them! A typical remark is one we heard this morning in Tesco when he saw a picture of a cow: "Cow! Vache! Vache! MOO!" He often says the name of something in one language then repeats it in the other. He doesn't really put sentences together yet, but is capable of telling us stories of things that have happened to him, for example he still talks about a hot air balloon he saw in September, "Balloon ... gone .... sky!" (while pointing out of the window in the direction that it went). He loves knowing people's names, and is very good at recognising them in photos (and is also very good at persuading us to look through photos on the computer!).
He isn't used to being around lots of other children - at nursery last year there were never more than 5 of them in his classroom - so that is a bit of a challenge. I've been taking him to a mums-and-toddlers group at church, with about 40 mums and 40 toddlers each time, and he gets quite clingy, though he is starting to gain confidence and leave my side to play with things. Crèche on Sundays seems to be getting worse - last time he screamed when I left him ... and then burst into tears again when I came back to collect him (only until he was in my arms). Oh well, it's all a learning process, I suppose!
We had tried to explain to Simon that there is a baby in my tummy ... but he then seemed to think that everyone had one! In the last couple of days though he has started to put his hand on the bump and say "Baby!" so maybe it's sinking in ... it is a bizarre concept for an adult though, so I'm not surprised if he finds it weird!
And here he is:
We are settling down into our life in Bedford, determined to make the most of the time and opportunities we have here.
Marc has applied for a couple of jobs, one of which he is very interested in (as an assistant dietician at the hospital). Simon and I have been going along to a couple of mother and toddler groups and are getting to know some other mums and kids.
At church we have been placed in a home group (our first meeting is tomorrow!) and we were asked to lead a workshop in the evening service yesterday evening, after going along to the Newcomers' Tea. With these different activities we have been meeting more people and putting faces to names. We have been coming to Christ Church whenever we've been in Bedford for the last four years, but when you meet someone then don't speak to them again for months, it's hard to build a friendship or even remember their name! It feels good to be able to be part of the everyday life of the church for a while.
I continue to be healthy and the pregnancy is going well. The midwife I saw today said things are “wonderfully normal”! I get out for a walk most days because of Simon – he really needs to get out of the house, use up some energy and see animals/tractors/postboxes/phoneboxes every day – and we've been fortunate not to have too much rain so far.
Mum is marking ('O' Level Maths – yes, that's right, 'O' Level, from Singapore) this month so we have been doing the shopping, cooking and washing, which also gives our days some purpose.
Linked to that, I have at last realised one of my ambitions – we have started to order a veg box! It's great to have vegetables delivered from a local farm, and to have a good selection and some vegetables I'd never cooked with before (swede and squash) to give me a bit of a challenge. Here is our first veg box:
We do believe that this is God’s will, and not just “chance”. It was good to be aiming to leave in November, as it made us get on well with preparations for leaving and with our support raising. But we believe that while it is right for us to make plans, we also need to allow God to guide our steps, and that does seem to have happened in a very clear way.
So what this means for now is that we have at least six months in the UK which we weren’t expecting to have. It is a bit of a limbo time, not having our own family home (though very grateful to be able to stay at my parents’) and not having a real sense of purpose. However, Marc is looking for temporary work, and Simon and I are starting to build up a social life! At least now that we’ve stopped moving around every week or so it becomes more possible to have a weekly routine and to build up friendships.
We are very happy to be able to get more involved with our church here, Christ Church Bedford. They have always welcomed us when we visited in the past and were very helpful supplying beds when we got married and had friends and family over from France. They are going to be supporting us in our work in Benin, so this is a good opportunity to get to know people better before we leave.
Our church was having a special weekend with a guest speaker, Raphaël Anzenberger, and Marc went to the Saturday morning meeting which was a kind of training session on apologetics and sharing your faith with neighbours and work colleagues. We spent some time with our pastor that afternoon, and on Sunday morning went to both the services (9am and 11am). Marc gave a testimony in the first and I did in the second.
As usual, it was great to be back and to see everyone again. Having been there for ten days in August we didn’t feel frustrated at not being able to see people for long, and we ate with a family from church and had a relaxing afternoon with them. It was colder than it had been in Orange, but still sunny and we found yet another playground for Simon to explore!!
We’re now back in Paris for ten days with Marc’s parents, with various people to see while we’re here.
I could write a similar list for Benin, but I've never lived there for long, so I don't think I can compare it in the same way! But I believe God has prepared our place there just as He has always done for me whenever I've moved somewhere new.
I'm feeling a little stretched ... and thinking that I need to finish off the first two, which are closest to being complete, and get ahead on the third. At the moment I'm trying to work on them all at once, which means I don't feel I'm making much progress on any of them!
Not the most interesting blog post ever, but this is what's on my mind at the moment!
... adventures in language and translation!